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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I haven't read or posted since I wrote about the basis for my high self-confidence so the posts that PP is referring to weren't mine.

Pump and dump guy: I can spot your type from a mile. A woman with high self-esteem, high self-confidence who doesn't care whether or not she has a man in her life is not vulnerable or easily seduced. Dream on.

Several comments said I'm conceited because I said I'm attractive. But I didn't say anything about my physical features in any of my posts. That's because I believe it's mostly my personality and positive energy that make me attractive, rather than physical appearance alone. That is not conceit.
Some PPs criticized my comment that maybe my date is falling in love with me. If you read my initial post properly, he is not a stranger to me, I stated that we have socialized together many times as part of a group and he is a friend of a friend. We know each other better than many women know men they have sex with after 3 dates. Not judging, just a fact. After our first date he said he would stop dating other women because he never felt about another woman the way he feels about me. He said that he hoped I would develop the same feelings for him. He made other comments too, which are his very private thoughts so I'm not writing about those here. It was all of these together that made me wonder if he was falling in love with me, not a few texts from a stranger.

We've been on four dates, he calls every day and everything is going very well. Thanks to the posters who gave me helpful advice! I'm age early 50s,  he is early 40s. I told him my age before  our first date. He had thought I was younger than him but the truth didn't bother him. We like each other a lot, we haven't had sex after 4 dates and he still wants to date me. I guess some men are genuinely attracted to women over 40.[/quote]

OP, he kind of sounds like a loser/beta orbiter with oneitis towards you.  No other options or he thinks he has no other options.  You've got him wrapped around your little finger, you know it, and you're basically teasing him.  You're not sexually attracted to him but you enjoy the attention and the fact that he is emotionally focused on you, but you can never actually feel attracted to or respect him because women don't get turned on by men like him.   You don't want to just cut him off since you don't have any other better options at the moment.  So you want to keep playing this game, keep him dangling, because you're on a huge ego trip, and you're cruel.[/quote]

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