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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm going to suggest that a woman who raised a son who got into UVA probably knows a thing or two about reaching goals...[/quote]

Bc UVA is Harvard? Get over yourself, it's a state school.

OP - while people are enjoying bagging on you and while you could have been gentler, I get what you are saying and it's not as rare as you'd think. These helicopter moms are raising their kids - ESP boys - with some much hovering and with so many pats on the back every time they take a piss, that when these boys get to college and face any adversity - a hard class; a class that's curved so not everyone can get an A; or simple not having home cooked meals and rides around town and 24-7 positive affirmation - they fall apart. As much as people here LOVE to spin everything as mental illness - it typically isn't. It's just a realization that life was really good in mama's arms so they want to go running back there and instead of taking tough love approaches that were more common back in the day, mama is happy to have her baby back. And in no way do I believe that ALL of these guys turn into these wonderful success stories - bc there are plenty of 35 yr olds still living at home and aimless in their career, if they have one at all.[/quote]
There is literally no evidence to support these attitudes. This "suck it up buttercup" narrative of epidemic proportions they've been sold is fucking hilarious. But it makes people feel good, that warm and fuzzy righteous indignation, because it reinforces their life view, what THEY have done, how no one helped them, blah blah. Newflash, kids beyond age say. 5 or 6, don't all get trophies, kids are hovered but also under even more pressure than when I was growing up (1980) 10 fold because of the schism of high achieving UMC families from the rest of the SES strata, etc. 
Get over your fucking self. Also, stop posting on FB so much, old people.
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