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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Actually, if I had young kids and a relative who didn't "do" Santa, I wouldn't celebrate with those relatives.  Because there is no way in hell you're getting out of there with your kids' belief in Santa intact.  [/quote]

[b]Take it from those of us whose kids don't celebrate Christmas. Their belief system is strong enough to manage interacting with kids who don't share their beliefs-- and live in a culture that celebrates different holidays. [/b]It is sweet that you want to shield your kids from any contrasting views, but understand that that's a position of privilege. [/quote]

How would your young kids have handled a similar aged cousin sleeping over at Christmas Eve and Santa leaving presents for the cousins but not for them?

Knowing how young kids operate, I imagine this woukd be exceptionally difficult for young kids, even from families with strong belief systems.

I think this is going to be even more pronounced since OP said this is the first year her brother is going all out on no Santa.[/quote]

I'm guessing this is going to be a traditional Christmas where everyone will get multiple presents. Unless someone calls attention to it, no ones going to notice who got presents from whom. Really, you are overthinking it.

Are you saying these kids think that all kids get presents from Santa and celebrate Christmas?  They've never met kids who don't believe in Santa? "Some kids believe in Santa and some kids don't."  Done.

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No.

Other kids not getting Santa presents is not an issue.

Similar aged young kids waking up in the same house on Christmas morning and only half of them getting Santa presents while the other kids do not get Santa presents is a big deal.[/quote]

(A) only if you draw attention to it. They're presents. Kids are happy to receive presents. 
(B) could be a great time to rethink whether to keep up with a lie that's unrelated to the meaning of Christmas and ease ones kids into reality: that their loving parents buy them gifts every year.  That's the truth and it ought to be just as wondrous.

Here's why we've never told our kids Santa was real: because we're raising them to understand how lucky we and they are to have the life we do, including our own home and cars and food toys and trips to the beach. Santa doesn't bring poor kids what he brings better off kids. I've no intention of teaching my kids that a magic man gives them more...just magically. Nor that what they have came out of nowhere. It came from hard work and from our being fortunate to have an education that enables us to earn money.

If they want wonder, they have our love and they have meeting for worship, Christmas music, and our Christmas Day nature hike.

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Thank you. These Santa threads were making me lose hope. Thank you for being a reasonable Christmas-celebrating person. [/quote]

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