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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The crazy thing is that people of young kids get all worked up about this and then you go through the teen and young adult years and you see that SAHM v WOHM is basically irrelevant compared to other familial issues. Go on with yourselves, getting all excited about this, but it’s a waste of energy.

- parent of young adults. [/quote]

I believe this. But what is better for the moms? This is a personal choice. Some moms would rather work than be home with small children, and others (like me) are completely strung out managing the stress of my job + raising small kids + and managing a house.

I’m a working mom who respects both stay at home moms and working moms. I think there is value in a stay at home parent if you can swing it, but there is more value in having two mentally stable parents - for some people that will mean two working parents and for others it will mean one parent who stays home.[/quote]

It’s going to vary and it’s really personal. It’s also impossible to predict the trajectory of your life. At a certain point, people are making educated guesses as to what will be best.

My kids are young adults now and the wide variety of outcomes I see is simply not correlated much to SAH or WOH. This is also reflected in studies, that show that things like parental education, alcoholism, drug addiction, violence in families, home ownership, peers, divorce, etc matter a lot more. Also, although it’s grim to talk and think about it, parental death. I know too many families with a dead parent. [/quote]

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