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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]All these self righteous [/b]wohm’s would rather concoct convenient narratives rather than believe that many of us sahm’s are feminists, are not remotely religious or “trad”, are not wealthy and will go back to work.

[b]We just understand child development (something most posters don’t seem to even consider) [/b]and know that daycare 0-2 is not good for children. That matters more to me and most women I know than any political or social project. And in children with social needs and the desire for parental care is magnified.

My wish for young women is that someone will be honest with them about which careers allow part-time, about how to save so you can always take unpaid leave in addition to mat leave if you have access to it, about how that wedding money is better earmarked for a nanny and about how many women simply change their minds about daycare when they actually have a vulnerable infant in their arms. No one talks about it—it’s taboo in pre-professional environments.

For example I know several physician moms who work one or two shifts a week during the early years. How helpful it would be for young women to know this is even possible!
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lol.. hypocrisy alert.[/quote]

The most neglected kids I observe are young toddlers with newborn and infant siblings.  If those parents truly cared about child development they would have waited til their first kid was 5 before having more. [/quote]

Please point me to the studies that show that spacing out your child by more than five years leads to better outcomes.[/quote]

Old article from New York Times

“Children born about two years apart, Dr. Kidwell points out, are likely to have the most intense competition for parental attention throughout their lives.

''A spacing of about five years is apparently optimal,'' Dr. Kidwell said. ''It frees the parent from having to meet the demands and pressures of two children close together in age, thus allowing parents and children more time in one-to-one interaction for a more supportive and relaxed relationship.''

Mine are six years apart.  I wanted it that way but I can see why someone would choose another way.  No one choice works for everyone. [/quote]

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