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FWIW, this thread has made me feel like absolute crap.  I am planning on taking 6 months off, which is going to be as much time as my family can financially bear for me to be off work.  I thought I was doing a pretty good job researching childcare and maintaining a job that provides great benefits and will allow me to help pay the bills.  According to so many on this thread I clearly do not love my child and am a horrible failure as a mother.  Thanks for the support ladies.[/quote]

Don't worry, PP. You and your baby will be okay. You're unsure of yourself now but you'll see, it will all work out. My kids are a lot older now and I've done it a lot of different ways (SAHM with infants, part-time WAH, fulltime WOHM, daycare with infants). Nobody could pick out which one of my children had which infant childcare experience, and they're all kind and emotionally healthy. I've spent many hours with many different older children and teens and while I have never been able to guess what infant childcare arrangement their parents used, I have been able to guess at whose parents are kind, emotionally stable, and loving people as opposed to those unfortunate kids with parents who are unkind, or overly critical, or judgmental, or emotionally unstable, or have untreated mental illness. That's the sort of thing that leaves a mark, not childcare. Don't let DCUM crazies get to you. They and their poor kids need a lot more help than you or your family do. [/quote]

At last - a voice of reason. This is absolutely true and I say this as someone who has also done SAHM, part time and now going back full time. The key variable for childhood development is maternal sensitivity i.e. how well do you respond to your kids needs. This thread is really frightening [/quote]

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