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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]All these self righteous [/b]wohm’s would rather concoct convenient narratives rather than believe that many of us sahm’s are feminists, are not remotely religious or “trad”, are not wealthy and will go back to work.

[b]We just understand child development (something most posters don’t seem to even consider) [/b]and know that daycare 0-2 is not good for children. That matters more to me and most women I know than any political or social project. And in children with social needs and the desire for parental care is magnified.

My wish for young women is that someone will be honest with them about which careers allow part-time, about how to save so you can always take unpaid leave in addition to mat leave if you have access to it, about how that wedding money is better earmarked for a nanny and about how many women simply change their minds about daycare when they actually have a vulnerable infant in their arms. No one talks about it—it’s taboo in pre-professional environments.

For example I know several physician moms who work one or two shifts a week during the early years. How helpful it would be for young women to know this is even possible!
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lol.. hypocrisy alert.[/quote]

The most neglected kids I observe are young toddlers with newborn and infant siblings.  If those parents truly cared about child development they would have waited til their first kid was 5 before having more. [/quote]
I know someone who was  sahm with their baby and toddler. The toddler hated the baby, up until their teens.  It was clearly noticeable, and this person would tell me things about how the older kid hated the younger. It was very sad.

My own kids, spaced apart the same as this person's kids, have played really well together since DC#2 was a baby, and still till this day as teens. They love each other and support each other.  They would hold hands walking and chatting, even when they were like 11 and 14 (DS and DD).   I stayed at home for a few months with my kids, then they went to daycare or had a nanny.

One is now in college doing really well, and the younger is in HS, involved in lots of activities, and doing well in school.

Ancedata of 1.[/quote]

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