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[quote=shan1212][quote=Anonymous]Reading these details on their friendship/history:

[twitter]https://twitter.com/kidneygate/status/1448109996772843520?s=21[/twitter]

Is heartbreaking. Did Larsen ever like Dorland? If so, what happened? How do you go from giving someone a personalized going away gift, attending parties at their home, discussing loss and childhood trauma, and sharing inside jokes on social media to…. “Eff Dawn and her effing kidney” or whatever?

I think something similar happened to me, though thankfully did not escalate like this and I don’t have this kind of evidence to prove my suspicions. But it was both devastating and deeply weird. You wind up wondering if what you thought was friendship was all a performance, and if so, why on earth? Or was it genuine and then I did/said something to make this person hate me? Or are they just really messed up and don’t really know how they feel about me and both our friendship and their newfound loathing of me are just outgrowths of done other issue that has nothing to do with me?

It’s just very disorienting. And I’ll never know, and like Dawn won’t either. People are so strange.[/quote]

Yeah, clearly this is something that perplexes us all.

I think my difficulty with friendships comes from the other direction . . . I am reserved, so I don't wind up making besties all over the place. I wish I had a little more of that ability to bond with other women at the drop of a hat. But on the plus side, since I am so careful and purposeful about making friends, I haven't had one turn bad in 20 years, since my college roommate dumped me because she thought her religion required it.

So I don't know. You could be more careful about making friends, but you might miss out on some great opportunities for connection if you're so afraid of being hurt that you take almost no risks. Loving others always results in pain/loss one way or another, but senseless cruelty is an especially hard way to swallow.

ETA: I don't think being relentlessly cruel is something all people do. I can completely understand friends growing apart, outgrowing whatever bonded them, etc. But wouldn't you still pass that person and think of your past together fondly? If someone holds some unspoken grudge but doesn't trust you enough to tell you what the grudge is, then that's not true friendship. A healthy adult either seeks remedy or works to resolve their feelings on their own. I suppose, if possible, you can focus on compassion (from a distance, behind your boundaries) for the person who lacks the resources to navigate hurt feelings in a productive way.[/quote]

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