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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Welcome to the application process for highly qualified daughters.  If your daughter is white or Asian, it's even worse.  The stats don't lie - your daughter is competing with far more applicants exactly like her than boys.  Check the Common Data Set stats and you will see it - applicants are mostly girls.  Are you middle class - specifically in the not so sweet spot of a family earned income between 200K and 400K a year?  It's even worse than just having a daughter!

A boy with those stats would have a bigger advantage than a girl in gaining admission simply because there aren't enough boys applying.  Add to that the middle class earned income no fly zone where you earn just enough to pay for school but not enough to pay full tuition, and it becomes a tougher road.  The stats and the achievements are only part of the equation.

You should feel upset - your kid busted their behind and others who may be less deserving but fulfilled some unknown need of the colleges on the list got their admit.  It sucks, but it's where we are.

My DD was in the exact same boat but we applied to places where she had clear opportunities at a full ride (in addition to the standard T20 applications) and she got more than one full ride offer at what would be considered by most here as lower tier schools. That helped her get over the sting of not being accepted to the T20s in her list.

My attitude would be as follows - those other schools didn't want my kid?  F them - they're missing out, and we are going to focus on the ones that showed my kid some love and love them right back.[/quote]

Yes, we're in that income bracket. DD is half-Asian, and according to this thread I'm guessing her "stereotypical" ECs showed AOs that she was Asian.[/quote]

NP. OMG I got this far and just can't anymore with this OP.

OP, the problem isn't that the activities "show that she's Asian," it's that they are very common and don't stand out. This is partly due to some Asian cultures pushing the same activities on kids, not the fact thatvtheyvare Asian!

Your daughter sounds bright, and I am truly sorry at her disappointment,  but your arrogance and entitlement coupled with your ignorance on admissions is just astounding.

You blew it with admissions.

RD to UVA does not give the best chances.  You repeatedly said she didn't really care about UVA. Well, it clearly showed. It could have been a hard target, but with this info, it's a reach.

UNC OOS is a reach for all..not a "target or more likely than reach." Yikes, no.

If JHU was first choice, it should have been ED1. Still a reach given BME program. But ED2 made it a high reach.

VT does not have a 57% admit for BME. Admit rates are not the same across majors. She should be very proud of this admit rate.

Lehigh and Pitt are also excellent options.

It is ugly the way you go after what you perceive as "lesser" kids or people here who try to explain to you how you got it wrong. I get that you're upset, and it is fine to grieve, but check your freaking arrogance.  You blew it. Your kid's list was too reachy, and she didn't make the most of her admissions options. That is partly on you for thinking you know better(UVA in the bag, UBC likely...as if). Nurse your wounds. Move forward.[/quote]

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