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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] 
No, that’s not how babysitters work.
They don’t sit on call waiting for wedding invitations for their clients.

So someone with a babysitter for wedding A might very well not have a babysitter for wedding B.[/quote]

It was an either/or proposition. If a babysitter is available for a weekend during which 2 events are held, the availability of the babysitter would not matter depending on the event you choose.

[quote=Anonymous] And? Someone might like the bride and groom better for wedding A. Would you rather be told “I don’t want to spend $1000 on your wedding but I was really happy to spend $1000 on Sally?”. Is that “honesty” really what you want?[/quote]

Why would you need to be dishonest about telling people you cannot afford to attend an adults-only wedding? "I cannot afford wedding A; the childcare costs are not in our budget. I can afford wedding B; it allows children thus no childcare expenses."

If someone criticizes you for genuinely not being able to afford something they are planning, they are in the wrong.

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You misread. Nowhere did I say anyone couldn’t afford the $1000– they just don’t want to spend it on you and they were happy to spend it on someone else. Isn’t it kinder for them to say to you that they just oh shucks don’t have a sitter? Do you really want that much honesty?[/quote]

Well I just respond "sorry, we will miss your lovely event.  Hope it is a wonderful day"

I don't need to tell them "I'm not coming to your wedding because I dont' want to spend money, but the week before I'm shelling out $4K+ to attend a wedding of a "Better friend"

Nah, I just RSVP No and send our regrets, then go about attending the events we choose to attend.  You know, like normal adults

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