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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]When did I say you did? I was simply having a laugh at the ridiculousness of everyone on here who has said thus and thus is acceptable and this or that is not. As if anyone owes anyone else an excuse, a reason, a justification that needs to be “accepted.” I’ve turned down invitations and I’ve learned that some people were upset I did not attend. Oh well. I don’t care if someone doesn’t understand or like my decisions.

But as I said, there is clearly a market for this type of reply card. Money to be made, people! [/quote]

You quoted me so I assumed you were implying as much.

But that's the thing. Nobody is saying the invitee owes anyone an excuse. At least nowhere near the extent we see the other side dictating what is and is not acceptable in terns of people planning their own wedding.

People are saying couples owe it to family, society, and 12 year olds with dreams of attending a wedding to invite children to weddings.

[quote]I’ve turned down invitations and I’ve learned that some people were upset I did not attend.[/quote]

Then that is silly. Nobody should be telling you that you owe them attendance, or that you owe them a wedding with children invited. 
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That's not precisely what I was trying to say about five pages ago, fwiw.  I think weddings used to be bonding experiences for young cousins when I was growing up.  Losing that because people want nicer Instagram pictures to post, if that's really why this generation is doing it, is really to bad from my perspective.  I have some great memories of those times.  It's a shame to me that young people aren't valuing those experiences for kids to hang out together.  If that's what you want, I can arrange for babysitting or not according to how much I value you in the family tbh.  It does inform my opinion of you and makes me think maybe you're caught up more with appearances and more inclined to make the event all about you instead about the larger family.  You're allowed to think me some sort of judgemental oldster, but I'm allowed to make that judgement of your selfishness etc, also. [/quote]

Hey oldster, what was the average cost of those weddings back in the 70s/80s that you are referring to? Oh, that’s right, a fraction of what a wedding costs today. You sound as dim as the Boomers who go on and on about how they own a home (they bought for $85,000) and they just don’t understand why young people can’t afford a home these days, they’re probably poor because they buy Starbucks. Weddings are astronomically pricier these days, so no, not everyone and their kids can be invited. [/quote]

Well we did our wedding 30+ years ago at a church.  Since we had to pay ourselves and were young and poor, we also held the reception at the church fellowship hall. Hired a church member who ran a catering business to provide the food, and donated to the church to have several of the "women of the church" help with serving the food.  
Since it was at a church, there was no dancing, alcohol, etc.  It was a 2 hour luncheon/cut the cake and we were done.  Then we paid the janitor fee. 
So our wedding, including the rehearsal dinner (also at the church fellowship hall, so no alcohol yet again) was about $4K total for 120 people.

But most people are not willing to do that type of wedding and reception
But it can still be done for under $8K [/quote]

I don’t know anyone who has had that kind of wedding, and I sure would rather get a sitter and go to a fun wedding with alcohol and good food and dancing. [/quote]

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