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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Pre kids I worked 10-12 hr days (so 50-60 hrs a week). There was no option for part time or a more flexible schedule in my field. If there had been that option, I would have continued working. I’d be fine w my kids being in daycare or with a nanny for 5-7 hrs a day but not for 10-12. So I quit my job to be a SAHM.

The problems are: 1) with so many jobs requiring so many hours and so little time off; 2) childcare being incredibly expensive. If the US prioritized families, women, children, there would be more high level jobs with flexible work schedules and the option for family-friendly part time hours and daycare would be much more affordable so more families could afford for both parents to continue working and send kids to daycare.

The way things are in reality is not set up to support families at all and it’s a hindrance to women’s advancement because many women, like myself, don’t have a choice to do both: work and have enough time with kids.

In many other countries SAHPs are practically unheard of because work schedules are more reasonable and workers get much more time off than we do in the US so SAHP isn’t really a thing because work-life balance is already good so more people keep working after having kids. [/quote]

+1. My relatives in Sweden, both male and female work 9-3. School hours. Then they’re home with their kids in the afternoons. The kids’ summer break is only about 6 weeks long and 4 of those weeks the parents have off work to for annual leave. It’s like this throughout a lot of Europe. A set up that actually supports families and encourages parents to continue working after having kids. Oh and also daycare is heavily subsidized there to make it actually affordable for all again which encourages parents of young kids to continue working. [/quote]

This. I am always shocked when I read our European work contacts/contracts with workers councils (all for office based work for a F100 locations in Spain, Italy, and France). At various points during pregnancy women’s workdays get progressively shorter, summer hours are shorter, working hours are shorter, parental leave is much better, etc). The reality is that it’s hard to be a parent everywhere, but it’s really hard to be a parent of young children in the US. I have a good friend who is a professor of epidemiology at a university in the UK and she says that she won’t come back to the US until she’s done having children and they’re older. So far she’s taken a year off with each of her two children (2 out of the last 4.5 years) and is considering having a third. So in the UK she’s just normal but on DCUM she would be a Christian Nationalist tradwife. [/quote]

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