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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]All these self righteous wohm’s would rather concoct convenient narratives rather than believe that many of us sahm’s are feminists, are not remotely religious or “trad”, are not wealthy and will go back to work.

We just understand child development (something most posters don’t seem to even consider) and know that daycare 0-2 is not good for children. That matters more to me and most women I know than any political or social project. And in children with social needs and the desire for parental care is magnified.

My wish for young women is that someone will be honest with them about which careers allow part-time, about how to save so you can always take unpaid leave in addition to mat leave if you have access to it, about how that wedding money is better earmarked for a nanny and about how many women simply change their minds about daycare when they actually have a vulnerable infant in their arms. No one talks about it—it’s taboo in pre-professional environments.

For example I know several physician moms who work one or two shifts a week during the early years. How helpful it would be for young women to know this is even possible!
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Are you a child development expert?[/quote]

Oh c’mon.  You don’t have to be a child development expert to know that it is better for an infant to be cared for one-on-one by their mother than put into a group daycare.  Pp is right on target, and we as a society would be better off if we acknowledged this fact and recognized that women can exit and re-enter the work force as their children grow and their family needs change.  [/quote]
Not necessarily.   Some women aren't great with the infant/toddler stage.

Also, if a mom has 4+ kids, that baby isn't getting all the 1:1 attention time.

No, it isn't easy for women to enter/exit the workforce after having kids.

I'm 54.  I've done it all -- sahm, daycare, nanny,  PT ooh,, PT in home, FT ooh, FT wfh.

The quality of the care is more important than who is providing the care.

And what happened to the dads?[/quote]

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