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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Please google and look online for Bangladesh stats. 
Op staying in a lowest class house and is portraying a most dismal state, which it is not.
It is a 3rd world country, but most Bengalis are very modern. The amenities and interiors of houses are very polished or high end. [/quote]

Most third world countries have an upper class that lives a Western lifestyle and sends kids abroad for their education. While the masses starve and live in much more difficult conditions.

She's describing what seems like a pretty middle-class life. They're not starving; they have access to WiFi and medical care and needs, not necessarily wants. [/quote]

Op here yes and DH had a private tutor growing up which seems to be the norm for the middle class. He also went to a private school.DH's nephew who lives in the house I am staying in has his child in a private school I noticed a difference in the women when we went to the schoolyard yesterday. In a lot of ways, they are living a more luxurious lifestyle. When I asked my SIL if she wanted a washer she said no because she prefers a household helper to do the washing by hand. They rarely wash dishes because someone comes every morning to do that. I did have a private tutor growing up but only because I am dyslexic. DH's nephew has one four days a week. His brother maintains all of their properties and rents out space to rickshaw drivers. They also have income from gardening vegetables. If they need middle care they go right away. No one is worried about being able to afford medicine or medical procedures. Their house is also paid off and has been for several decades. Taking loans for houses isn't a thing. The house I showed a picture of was paid off in full. It was around 40-50k and dh helped out with some of it. What middle class family in the US pays off their house? [/quote]

That's so interesting op. I'm the pp you responded to.

I think also though there isn't the respect for property rights in Bangladesh, so you can own your house but the government could take it at any time???

Washing by hand is certainty better for the environment  [/quote

OP here. Maybe. DH went somewhere yesterday about a land dispute. His older brother's only job is managing all their properties, and a big reason why his mom doesn't want to go to the US is because of a fear that someone will take some of their land. They have land scattered around. There are SO MANY things about his culture that are different. It gets overwhelming learning everything. Here, for example, women almost always wear a scarf over their chest, and DH has made a big deal about asking me to do this. During the last trip, he didn't ask me to do that. We also took a different route from the airport for the second trip as they built a bridge, so we didn't have to take the car ferry.

We have also been traveling to Dhaka more. I think we went 3 times now. During the last trip, we only went to Dhaka when we arrived because that's where the airport is, and we arrived late at night and we went again when we returned to the airport to leave. During this trip, I am having his sister take me out more so I can understand everyday things. We went to the tailor yesterday, and I saw the local clothing shops. We went to a restaurant a few times here in his city (mainly bc people here have been pushing me to get out), and we didn't do that during the first trip. The restaurant we have been going to wasn't built yet, and I don't remember seeing any restaurants that looked western during the last trip here in his city. A lot has changed in 5 years. I told DH yesterday I had a goal to go out with a rickshaw by myself, and he laughed and said, most likely, I will have to get the police to return me to his house. We went to Gulshan because people here have been pushing that. Thanks!! I had to ask many times before I could do any of this stuff. Without this forum, I probably wouldn't have gotten out.

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