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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ugh. I have an august 31 DD that i will not be red shirting. She will end up in 9th grade with kids a full 18 months older. [/quote]

I have a late August DD that we did not redshirt and that is now late elementary.  She is doing fine socially and is crushing it academically.  I don't look forward to having the boys a year older in her grade in HS, and honestly I have a hard time not silently scoffing when I hear their parents bragging about them.[/quote]

Why are you so bitter that you can’t just be happy for these kids that are doing well? On top of it your daughter is also doing great… why not be happy for all these kids whose parents’ choices allowed them to succeed? 
What is wrong with the world?[/quote]

Dp. Agreed. So much. The anti-red shirters always say that the maturity gap narrows. So apparently two kids who are a year apart of no big deal, but kids 18 months apart is the end of the world. [/quote]

No, those of us who don't hold our kids back a grade think our kids are smart enough and will do well in either situation and will learn resilience and adversity AND we get them the help they need or give it to them at home.  If our kids have delays, we get the therapies and support they need.  It's not that our kids are less mature, it's your kids who are too old for the grade, less mature, and forced into a situation that keeps them less mature than their peer group where they get their example from is from younger kids.  If your 5 year old is with a 4 year old and you look at the 4-year-old and say, hey my kid is more mature, that means nothing due to the age gap.  And, it really means your child needs age appropriate peer models.

You, who hold your kids back are saying its terrible to have a large age gap with your child being the youngest, but then say its ok to have that age gap and have your child as the oldest.  The logic makes no sense especially when you've done nothing to help your child.

This is really about gaming the system to make your kids seems smarter or better than they are.  Give them a chance rather than assume they can't or are not ready.  Give them the support they need to be successful.  And, question schools that force kids to stay back a year for the school's needs, not the child's as they aren't putting the child's needs first.[/quote]

You’re the one fixated on comparing kids and age gaps.

It’s about what’s best for an individual, NOT comparing to others. Almost all kids would benefit from another year of age-appropriate learning. AKA not K in the US at age 4-5.

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