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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I hate timing- I suspect I have poor reflexes and am always worried about messing it up.  Happy to work concessions though.[/quote]

I love timing!  I really do not like S&T - so unhappy when I have to DQ a little kid. [/quote]

Love this about the range of volunteer jobs.  [b]Our reps always tell us there's something for everyone[/b].  I love S&T, hate timing and clerk of course.  Have never tried concessions.[/quote]

There really is. If parents hate the pressure of timing or S&T they can marshal. If they don't want to stand around in the sun they can do awards which literally involves putting stickers on ribbons. yet, there are still parents who chose to do absolutely nothing at every single meet. [/quote]

Exactly!  I posted up thread, but I love being clerk of course.  I get to know the kids and other parents, stay busy, and can keep an eye on my kids.  Standing or sitting for hours is no good for me physically, but the moving around associated with CoC works well.

I'll probably get certified for S&T once all of my kids are swimming, because it sounds interesting and I'm also good at letting kids and parents down easy if I have to DQ them.  And I can handle parents who might protest ;)[/quote]

I do Stroke and Turn in NVSL and while I hate DQing a kid, they don't know it's me. I write the slip and talk about it with the ref and then it goes to the table and team ref. There's something wrong with how the team is run if you're ever approached by parents or coaches about your DQ call. Those questions are directed to the ref. After B meets, I will engage with parents of kids I know well to explain why their kid DQed or I'll talk to the coaches to explain exactly what I saw on one of our kids so they can work on fixing it. Most of the time, the coaches see it too and don't question it.[/quote]

Good to know.  I'm making assumptions based on having grown up here (MoCo, my kids swim for an MCSL team) and playing sports and seeing what the parents are like.  Our team is pretty chill, but some of the others against we compete are... not.

As for issues around racism (I know, separate post), historically, yes, it's an issue, and I'm sure still is in many communities.  We live in a racially/ethnically/SES diverse area, and our team reflects that.[/quote]

I know we're not really mentioning specific pools here, but I was wondering about Wildwood Pool?

I was thinking about signing my kids up for thr first time next year, but I noticed that some of the parents (moms in particular) are really clique-y and kind of intense... especially mom's of the older kids.

They're always standing around huddled together at practices (and whenever they're at the pool really) and whispering.
I've noticed that it's uncomfortable for the other mom's who aren't included in the huddle... and as an introvert, that intimidates me.

One mom has two older boys on the team that are in the same grades and would swim in the same div. as mine and she is truly so fake.

Our kids LOVED swim team at our old pool before we moved, and this was our first summer at Wildwood (we moved midway through the season, so we couldn't sign them up this summer) but we went the whole summer at the pool, and it was obvious, they were pretty blatant.

Im very inclusive, and I don't want to NOT sign them up, just because I don't want to have to deal with phoney, cliquey mom's... but I really don't want to deal with phoney, cliquey mom's, lol.

Anyone here have any experience WITH the team or on the team?

Thank you in advance. ❤

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You have no idea what they are “whispering” about and yet you’ve labeled them clique-y, intense, huddling, whispering, etc. how do you know other moms are uncomfortable?  You’re an introvert and new to the pool. If you can’t go up and talk to them, it will be difficult for you. We’ve belonged to our pool for years but we see lots of new people there. I don’t randomly go up to them and start talking to them unless we are at a meet and working together or working near each other. They weren’t whispering every time they engaged.

You sound super judgmental and make a lot of assumptions.

Email the social director or team reps and ask if they’d introduce you to some people. 
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Strike a nerve? Aha!
Not the pp, but it's easy to tell when people are standing around gossiping. You don't have to be in the conversation to know the body language. 
Sounds like you may be one of those women or else you wouldn't be so emotionally triggered by what they said. [/quote]

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