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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's a very toxic community at eaton unless you're a popular parent (like tom mahoney) so I doubt anyone there would even care as long as it didn't directly happen to them[/quote]

This is not true.  I've been involved with several HSA fundraisers over the years and never met the guy.[/quote]

Whoever said this should definitely be red flagged and not be volunteering anymore.
Tom Mahoney was absolutely exhibiting this same grooming behavior at Eaton as described by the swimming group. He was one of the most obnoxious WhatsApp posters, he was constantly mentioned in HSA emails,  he showed up with cameras unsolicited at events and playdates, was involved with the hsa and after-school (jeap) parent groups, and was regularly lurking in front of the school talking to kids and parents without his own children present. Hopefully he never chaperoned a field trip and took anyone to the bathroom but who knows because mainly people just seem to want to defend him/the school and not want to talk about it. I agree that there are other problematic characters that seem to have too much access and trust as well, and yes, I am an Eaton parent. We should always be questioning people's motives if it seems off. I'm sorry to those who are having to deal with this, it happens far too often. [/quote]

You should confront these problematic characters about their problematic behavior and also inform the school. Now is the time that the school will be most receptive to this type of feedback.

Thomas got away with what he was doing for so long because fellow parents are so adverse to confrontation. Being a parent should not be a popularity contest. If you see something, say something. If I knew who these “problematic characters” were, I would confront them myself.[/quote]

Thomas got away with it for so long because he fit in. I was in his circle of acquaintances (not close) and he seemed just like every other involved dad, albeit one who really liked taking pictures.  He was friendly and good at small talk. I never heard any gossip or whispers about anything problematic. It’s only in conversations after his arrest that I’ve heard things that in retrospect seem stretchy at best and grooming at worst.

I think parents really want to believe that there are absolute red flags that every predator shows and I don’t think that’s true. That’s why it’s so important for organizations to set up safeguards and for parents to talk to their children. That’s how Thomas was caught - parents talked to their children and believed them. [/quote]

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