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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Truly experienced mothers would not stoop to this pettiness. [/quote]

I agree - truly experienced moms get that balancing kids and work is hard and we applaud those parents who are investing in reliable childcare so they can actually work. I’ve been burned at work by parents who are distracted trying to juggle kids and work for an extended period of time and don’t get that the solution is to invest in childcare.[/quote]

Ha- doesn’t get better back in the office.  I get burned by parents having to leave at 5pm on the dot to pick up their kids from daycare.  We often have meetings that go past that. They claim daycares close at 6 and kid has softball.  Seems like more nannies are needed.[/quote]

Many daycares do close at 6 pm. Also after a long day without their parents you are saying young children shouldn’t see their parents for even longer and parents should just hire a nanny? Seems like what you are saying is that being a good parent is not compatible with having a full time job. Basically this is what republicans want. For working mothers to quit their jobs. What people who want women in the workplace but agree with you are saying is that either kids should just not see their parents except on the weekends or that women who want to work should not have kids. Disgusting.[/quote]

Or, you know, just don’t live an hour away from your job. 
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I simply can’t afford to live in DC. What I can afford is a 2 bedroom apartment and I have three kids. What you are telling me is I shouldn’t have kids. Do you believe that working women should have kids? It’s a simple question. Or do you only believe that working women who are rich enough to afford a house right next to work should have kids? Also do you believe that kids with working parents should be able to see at least their parents for more than an hour a day?[/quote]

I believe none of those things. I believe if you can afford to live in/near DC, you should get a different job closer to where you CAN afford to live. [/quote]

I understand this argument to an extent, but who on earth do you expect to fulfill civil servant positions if salaries do not allow you to live within a reasonable commuting distance of those jobs?  Same with teachers- I’ve seen too many lovely, hard working DCPS teachers leave to teach in the burbs once they have kids because the commute just doesn’t work anymore.
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I don’t know. My spouse and I quickly determined that fed salaries were not going to work for us and neither was living in DC and Arlington with a family. So we got jobs in Tysons and Reston and moved to a house in the burbs where we have been ever since. Choices that have been maligned heavily on DCUM over the years. But I have never had to complain that I live too far from my office to possibly expected to actually drive there! I’ve never commuted an hour one way in my life. That would simply be a non starter for me, even before kids. And if we could not have afforded a reasonable house and reasonable commutes in this area, we would have move away. That’s the God’s honest truth. I don’t think it’s reasonable for all these people have these mammoth commutes and kids in daycare 11 hours a day. The difference is that I don’t think RTO is the problem. [/quote]

How nice for adding your anecdote, which is a sample of 1 family. [/quote]

Living in a house isn’t a right. It’s a privilege. You could’ve rented a modest apartment close in and even in a good school district. There’s nothing wrong with kids being in school and before/after care for 11 hours. Ours have done just fine. And this is coming from someone who has worked from home for the last 10 years and had full time before and after care during that time. Own your choices. It’s not fair and I get parents who didn’t think ahead are struggling right now but [b]you should’ve seen the writing on the wall at least by November 7th.[/b] [/quote]
DP here. Many feds did "see the writing on the wall" but that didn't fundamentally change the situation for them.

The reality is these commutes started to get really bad since long before the pandemic. There is a reason there has been so much development in Loudoun County over the past 15 years. Living close to job centers in DC and elsewhere has gotten EXPENSIVE and people have been moving to the exurbs for a while. Telework was a way to retain these workers because otherwise you just can't. Stop attacking people who have been serving our country and are now being intentionally abused and traumatized.[/quote]

Have as many kids as you can afford. Commute as long as you wish to afford the accommodations you think you "need.

The reality is that people eventually have to face the fact that maybe they can't afford to get pregnant, or may they can't afford a single family home with a yard, etc. These are all choices to be made.

You chose your profession and now you're "abused" and "traumatized." Get a grip.[/quote]

This is ridiculous. We made choices including an attached home (you're right, I CAN'T afford a single family home with a yard, and I never said I was entitled to them), one very short commute, and one remote job. These worked for us. Acting like relocation of one job wouldn't impact dual career families (because that's what it is, relocation) if they'd just planned better is some serious confusion of luck with planning. [/quote]

You could have afforded a single family house, just not where you wanted to live.  Our house is 1000 square feet.  We cannot just move every time my spouse gets a new job.[/quote]

Are you actually criticizing me for living in a townhouse? Can't win with you people.

And no, we can't just move either. [/quote]

Townhouses can be more expensive with hoa fees.  [/quote]

New poster - my fee comes with a pool woo-hoo. Much cheaper than a country club membership too.[/quote]

Ok, and?  There are public pools and private pools all over, still cheaper.[/quote]

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