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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s very sad to see all these second wives waving their superiority over the first wife. The point of the OP, and many others, is that kids from the first family wind up with short shrift, and as the father redirects his love and attention, the kids are shut out.

I’ve heard fathers say: I messed up before and I’m going to get it right this time. The first set of kids are a reminder of the father’s faults and easier to drop than face.
This is not the children’s fault. Stop glowing over their misfortune.
To say it doesn’t/shouldn’t  matter to them shows a level of self-centeredness that negates your credibility on everything else. They are still his kids.

In circumstances where the second wife shows some genuine heart toward the children from the previous marriage, even adult children, things are likely to go a whole lot better.[/quote]

It’s interesting you blame the dad and wife.  What about when the mom cheats and is to blame?   She leaves with her ap and has her ap replace dad.  [/quote]
You missed the point again.
This is about an adult child wanting a solid and mutual relationship with her father. Her mother is dead. She is grappling with her feelings. That’s human for a person with some compassion.[/quote]

She just does not get that it is her H’s responsibility to create a relatively with his children. No matter what the ex-W did a good father would move mountains to get custody, have time, create a relationship.

It’s never too late, if he really cared he would reach out now and get the family counseling needed to fix the damage he did when they were children.

But again, that would take time and money from her family so she won’t [/quote]

You get your kids the conselling they need.
As you were responsible for taking them away from  their dads.
Give them inheritance.
Your kids had their turn.
All second wives here sending you love [/quote]

Why would an ex-wife pay for her ex-h to get counseling and trips/visits with his children .

You married a deadbeat don’t expect his ex to fix it for you.[/quote]

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