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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No you aren't a women with Daddy issues, you are a women with issues with women. You come into the relationship competing with the grown children of the man you married. You resent Daddy spending money and time on his existing kids, you have zero idea how to relate to them and spend zero time trying to get to know them and develop a relationship with them. Then you start popping out new babies to replace those kids and icing them out of Daddy's life. YOU are the problem.  [/quote]

Moron...problem is you couldn't accept daddy moved on. Had new kids because he wanted them[/quote]

MORON no 40-50 year man with almost gown children wants babies. and you shouldn't be such a C$NT to his existing children. [/quote]

My husband is 46 and wanted more kids because crazy ex alienated him from first.
Guess what he still wants more. You know why because in his words he finally got to be a dad and not a check book. 
He's happy to finally get to have a real relationship with children who aren't vindictive sh*ts.
As for the kids they will be treated how they treat us.[/quote]

You are blaming children for your H's failure to parent his own children.

No real father can lose all relationship with their kids if they have 50/50 custody. Most men just don't want their kids 50% of the time and then are a-holes when they have no relationship.

Did he have 50/50 custody?[/quote]

No because she moved out of the country. [/quote]

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So she had another baby with another man and moved.
Maybe she shouldn't have had another baby and moved and ruined Dad's chance of having a relationship.
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So. Is that his excuse for not having custody? If so that’s a lame excuse.[/quote]

How could he have 50 50 if the mom took the kid so she could be with her new man.
Are you thick?[/quote]

You go to court and you ask for custody. It’s also illegal to just up and move the kids across state lines so it’s clear he just let them go to another country.

The reality is your H didn’t care enough to fight for custody because no judge in the world would agree to her moving to another county.[/quote]

It's not illegal and even if it was, no court will care.  Yes, he fought for custody and visitation but if the mother will not cooperate there is almost no accountability.  He went to court many times.  The only thing the courts care about is if child supports it paid.  When she accused him of not paying, there was a court hearing within weeks but when he filed contempt for visitation, it took months to get a hearing.  You clearly don't seem to know how it works.

Once kids are moved, the court says its too disruptive to move them again and too bad.[/quote]

Wow! You have been sold a whole bunch of lies. HE IS LYING TO YOU.

A judge will never allow kids to move away from their father.

Your husband DID NOT WANT CUSTODY. Get that into your thick skull.[/quote]

This. Everyone knows dads get all the custody they do the bare minimum to secure. Everyone except second wives of course. [/quote]

No, that's not true.  Laws are slowly changing but most states put a priority over child support then Dad's rights and the discussion is about kids 20+.  Courts were different back then.

Are you really this clueless?[/quote]

My dad easily got 50/50 custody in the late 80s. You want us to believe in "biased courts" in 2003? You're deluded. [/quote]

Of course she does cause the other option is that her husband didn’t want his own children. She needs to believe this fantasy to justify being with such a horrible person.[/quote]

Does that make you feel better? Is that how you justified it your kids? When you denied them a relationship with their father so you could collect your child support check[/quote]

Okay. Let’s say your spouse lost his mind and fled with your kids. He took them out of state or out of country or whatever it is you understand his ex to have done. What would you do? What if you talked to 5 lawyers who told you to just accept you’ll never see your kids again? You’d just accept it? I doubt it. It’s the rare mom who would. You’d probably move heaven and earth to make sure you were as close to your kids as possible as much as possible, right? [/quote]

Again if you are military and at war tell him which judge would grant you custody ? Especially if the mom is foreign and jurisdiction for child related issues falls there[/quote]

If they were your kids.  What would you do. How hard would you fight. [/quote]

Once a foreign judge grants custody nothing you can do twit[/quote]

Actually there is a lot you can do, but you are bound and determined to believe the lies your DH has told you, so it doesn’t matter. [/quote]

Fool I have read the court report. Also you are clearly clueless about the military so stay in your sad little lane[/quote]

I suggest you reach out to militray groups who can fill you in. Many poor soldiers trapped because greedy women think they can pop babies and get their pensions and alimony. Take kids etc grow up [/quote]

I suggest you talk to a lawyer, who will tell you about all the laws put in place specifically for the military, so that their children are not taken from them even when they are deployed.[/quote]

Already did fool and this went in front of the judge. Judge granted mother full custody because dad was deployed to Iraq and then Afghanistan.
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Which is it, you went to court of you read the documents later. Your story is changing.[/quote]

He went to court. I didn't know him then. He had kid at 26 divorced at 28. I met him when he was 42. Does that help you fool.
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Yes. Make total sense that a 28 year old man did not feel equipped to care for a 2 year old and did not fight for 50/50 custody. Happens all the time. [/quote]

He asked for  joint custody and asked the woman to stay in the US. She refused and didn't want to stay in the US. Perhaps them don't have babies with soldiers. Oh but wait alimony and pension too good to pass.[/quote]

I’d leave the country to stay with my kid. I’d ask for a discharge from the military. I would do anything. Whatever it took. It’s your CHILD. Wouldn’t you?[/quote]

You truly are dumb and what would he support them with?
Her benefit check. He's not a resident of the country.
Also the mother didn't want to stay married
 She wanted the cash. Hit the roof when the child support ended[/quote]

I asked you a simple question that you clearly are scared to answer.

If someone took your child away from you, what would you do. I’m not talking about staying married. I’m asking what you would do if someone absconded with your child to another country.

I think you’re a good mother. I think you’d do whatever it took. Give up your job, move out of the US, whatever you had to do. Because you love your kids. [/quote]

Even if you give up your job and follow the other parent, they still may not let you see the kids and how will you pay child support let alone your own basic necessities without a job.  And, with military you cannot exactly walk away from your job.[/quote]

So he sought a discharge? He tried to immigrate to her country? He tried to get a job there? [/quote]

My husbands ex moved cross country.  No he’s would not get a discharge and how would he finally pay child support and alimony and then who would have supported her the last 25+ years.   [/quote]

And that’s what you would have done, in the same situation, as a mother? Is that right?

If so you’re an absolutely garbage person and mother. But I think you wouldn’t. And I think you know that. But you aren’t willing to let those dots connect, that it’s your husband that is a garbage person. [/quote]

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