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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]family, what was that like?

I am in this boat now and it’s happening really fast. My parents were married for 30 years, then the divorce -&gt; dad’s second wife (my “stepmom”) about to have her baby happened in a 5 year period. Should I be happy? [/quote]

I'm sorry. Sending hugs as that has to be incredibly difficult.

I would not be pleased, that's for sure. [/quote]

Good God! Jill Biden is a second wife and had another baby. Her daughter seems just fine[/quote]

With a widower, not someone who walked out on a 30 year marriage and immediately started another family. Get a clue. [/quote]

Stop being stupid. Read the thread. You have all claimed that men should not have any more children. And it's not men who always walk out on marriages[/quote]

He didn’t abandon his kids with their mother. His new wife treated them like her own. Totally different. [/quote]

So in this scenario it's justified to have another child? But not if there is a divorce?
Stop accusing dads of abandoning kids because they choose to remarry after a divorce.
Talk so much nonsense 
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Of course not all dads abandon their kid when they remarry. And not only widows. There are dads who take 50/50 custody and continue to have deep, meaningful relationships with their older kids.

I can tell you this though. No father like that would EVER claim that having more kids later had no impact on their older kids’ lives. They know it will because they have real relationships with their kids. [/quote]

Then by your logic moms shouldn't have any more kids after divorce[/quote]

That’s the exact opposite of what I just said. It’s fine to have more kids if you take incredible care not to abandon the older kids. It would probably be better if you didn’t, and no good parent would pretend it will have no impact at all on older kids, but it can be done well. But a bunch of stepmoms in this thread have been modeling why it’s so hard to do well. [/quote]

It doesn't matter. Men have been having kids with second wives for forever and nobody asked the older kids' permission.[/quote]

True, but it doesn’t make them good people. It actually makes them garbage people. [/quote]

And both sets of kids end up dysfunctional and messed up. It is so sad to watch. [/quote]

First set. Second grow up in a happy home with two loving parents. A more attentive dad. Jealous first wives and their spawn burn with envy as they watch [/quote]

First mom thought she had those things too. Time will tell![/quote]

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