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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is indeed a very depressing thread. I've been both: a career person and a SAHM for 10 years. I don't understand what all these SAHM do after kids are off to college.[b] My son is in high school, and his friends matter more to him now than either parent. Honestly I am SO BORED after divorce! My job is what's saving me from a deep depression[/b]: it's nice meeting other people daily, do some projects, be on calls.

I can afford not to work living off divorce settlement but  I would be drinking big time or something just sitting home.

And yes, I had that noisy, happy marriage (initially until he started living double life) with [b]3 homes, 3 cars, international travel, dinners with friends, charity events etc[/b]. Its all gone in a matter of 2 years.

Having gone through this in my own life, I strongly recommend any educated woman not to leave professional field.[/quote]

Hmmm...You are divorced. Your kid is with his friends (in a pandemic? okey-dokey). You were ultra rich (3 houses, international travel, charity events). So your lifestyle was certainly a bit different from my lifestyle as a SAHM.

I am with my DH and I have a happy marriage.  My DH does not travel and he is home with me every day. He is an involved dad, our main cook, and we share our hobbies. We don't have a jet setting lifestyle (1 home, international travel together, no charity events), and our kids are really working their butts off in public schools in a rigorous STEM programs.  When they hang with their friends, we know who they are.

Sorry,  your narrative is the narrative of people with unhappy marriages and dysfunctional families. How easily you have said that your kids are ok with their friends and care more about them than either of their parents. Really?   My kids would be a mess if ever mom-dad were not together and our family broke up.  We are their rock.

There is a big misstep in your life and that misstep is not that you were a SAHM or gave up your professional life. In your case, you being in a job would not have stopped your husband cheating or your divorce. You being a WOHM would not have stopped your kid being not connected to either of his parent.

In fact, you may have reaped whatever you sowed.  Your family life would have been what it is regardless of if you were a SAHM or a WOHM. [/quote]

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