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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]RE: What do SAHMs do for 6 hours

Well, what do YOU do on the weekends? SAHMs do that. Don't you have any hobbies? Do you read, work out, listen to podcasts? Do you have pets? Do you ever clean your house? Do you ever volunteer somewhere?

Is it hard for you to fill six hours on a Saturday? It's really not that much time.[/quote]

Umm on weekends I do the yard work, food shopping, cooking for the week, laundry and prepare everyone for the week ahead. I then rely in the work I did in the weekend to get me through my week of working full time and shuttling kids to sports.

I have a hard time fully comprehending how they fill their days if the sole focus is ‘supporting the house and family’. [/quote]

Yeah, well, what you do sounds like a hard life. Sorry, not for me and not my cup of tea.  But, your hard work is to be commended. A big DCUM prize for you!! Yay!! You go girl!!! You won the Golden Mule!!

I am probably somewhat of a big slacker. I love to hang out with my DH and kids and usually we focus on having fun and relaxing in the weekends. The cooking, shopping, laundry, scheduling stuff, self care, planning,  organizing, hobbies, causes, socializing, volunteering happens during the weekday.  I outsource food prep, yard work, party prep, home repairs, house upkeep and house cleaning. I prefer that these chores and tasks are done under my supervision and to my satisfaction.

When my kids and DH are home, they come to a clean house, a relaxed and refreshed parent, food on the table, and [b]a SAHM/SAHW who is able to anticipate their needs.  [/B]The home is their oasis of calm and a place to relax. Weekends is used for fun so that they can face the coming week recharged.

Your lovely schedule sounds like a lot of work! Phew!! Good for you though. Keep up the good work.

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I stayed home. No criticism from me about SAH, but the bolded is horrifyingly servile to me. [/quote]

Well, that is your interpretation and I cannot help about how you feel or think. For me, taking care of my family is a labor of love.

What you have said is actually food for thought.  What if you don't have a good HHI and money is tight? What if your DH is a terrible person? What if you have a bad marriage? What if your kids are rude, disrespectful, terrible people and underachievers?  What if you have no help from family and no funds to outsource the boring stuff? How underappreciated, insecure, powerless and unloved are you that doing things for your family makes you feel servile?  This could very well be the reality of many women.  We should certainly sympathize, even if we cannot empathize. [/quote]

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