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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I read a blog from Rebecca at Fosterhood, who herself was adopted as a child and who has fostered with the intent to adopt 2 kids of her own.

Her view on this is that the parents were unprepared and never should have been allowed to attempt this adoption in the first place because of that unpreparedness.  And who knows, maybe they are terrible people.

But the important thing, she says, is the welfare of the child, and for that she is grateful that these parents recognized they were in over their heads and gave the child another chance somewhere else.  The outcome of that child, in that household, was not going to be good.

It's easy to bash this couple and I'm not defending them.  But we don't really want the child to end up with them when they weren't able to take care of the kid.  To want these parents to keep the child, given the parents they are, is to effectively root against the child.

Just another way of looking at the situation.[/quote]

That’s great “I’ve read a blog”-lady. I’m also adopted and adopting a child and this was a massive failure. Failure of the adoption agency - who approves such a narcissistic public couple monetizing their adopted child? Other agencies would have declined this family. They said they were open to every special need in the book. But were obviously already stretched thin with their other kids. Yes it’s best if the child was rehomed but you know what would be even better? Adoption agencies and families NOT f*ing profiting off of the trauma of a child without any say in the matter. This was child trafficking. Their videos should be removed from YouTube.[/quote]

We agree that it's in the child's best interests to be rehomed.
We agree that the adoption agency should never have allowed this couple to adopt in the first place.

You have additional opinions about calling this child trafficking and getting the videos removed from YouTube (fwiw I agree about the videos), but I'm not sure what you're so angry at me for when we mostly seem to agree here except for tone.  Okay I guess.

But you know what probably would have been even worse?  If this couple had been too embarrassed or stupid to admit that they were not equipped to deal with this child and had effectively abused the child for the rest of its childhood.  The current  outcome, while it never should have been necessary, at least provides a chance for the child to get the care that is truly needed.  I understand your anger at the couple above all, but I don't think that you're recognizing that this isn't the worst that this case could have gone for the child, and I for one am grateful that this couple, whatever its faults, actually recognized its limitations and made a difficult decision that gives this kid at least a chance for the future.[/quote]

They did not admit that they were not equipped to take care of him, so please do not give them credit for that. They blamed him, his behavior, "medical professionals," and made accusations that he harmed or threatened their other children. They smeared his name, blamed him, and even went as far to say at that he wanted to be given away. That is completely different than admitting they were the problem, and that they could not meet his needs after doing everything in their power to care for him thus having to find him a new home. [/quote]

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