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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Truly experienced mothers would not stoop to this pettiness. [/quote]

I agree - truly experienced moms get that balancing kids and work is hard and we applaud those parents who are investing in reliable childcare so they can actually work. I’ve been burned at work by parents who are distracted trying to juggle kids and work for an extended period of time and don’t get that the solution is to invest in childcare.[/quote]

Ha- doesn’t get better back in the office.  I get burned by parents having to leave at 5pm on the dot to pick up their kids from daycare.  We often have meetings that go past that. They claim daycares close at 6 and kid has softball.  Seems like more nannies are needed.[/quote]

Many daycares do close at 6 pm. Also after a long day without their parents you are saying young children shouldn’t see their parents for even longer and parents should just hire a nanny? Seems like what you are saying is that being a good parent is not compatible with having a full time job. Basically this is what republicans want. For working mothers to quit their jobs. What people who want women in the workplace but agree with you are saying is that either kids should just not see their parents except on the weekends or that women who want to work should not have kids. Disgusting.[/quote]

Or, you know, just don’t live an hour away from your job. 
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I simply can’t afford to live in DC. What I can afford is a 2 bedroom apartment and I have three kids. What you are telling me is I shouldn’t have kids. Do you believe that working women should have kids? It’s a simple question. Or do you only believe that working women who are rich enough to afford a house right next to work should have kids? Also do you believe that kids with working parents should be able to see at least their parents for more than an hour a day?[/quote]

I believe none of those things. I believe if you can afford to live in/near DC, you should get a different job closer to where you CAN afford to live. [/quote]

I understand this argument to an extent, but who on earth do you expect to fulfill civil servant positions if salaries do not allow you to live within a reasonable commuting distance of those jobs?  Same with teachers- I’ve seen too many lovely, hard working DCPS teachers leave to teach in the burbs once they have kids because the commute just doesn’t work anymore.
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I don’t know. My spouse and I quickly determined that fed salaries were not going to work for us and neither was living in DC and Arlington with a family. So we got jobs in Tysons and Reston and moved to a house in the burbs where we have been ever since. Choices that have been maligned heavily on DCUM over the years. But I have never had to complain that I live too far from my office to possibly expected to actually drive there! I’ve never commuted an hour one way in my life. That would simply be a non starter for me, even before kids. And if we could not have afforded a reasonable house and reasonable commutes in this area, we would have move away. That’s the God’s honest truth. I don’t think it’s reasonable for all these people have these mammoth commutes and kids in daycare 11 hours a day. The difference is that I don’t think RTO is the problem. [/quote]

How nice for adding your anecdote, which is a sample of 1 family. [/quote]

Living in a house isn’t a right. It’s a privilege. You could’ve rented a modest apartment close in and even in a good school district. There’s nothing wrong with kids being in school and before/after care for 11 hours. Ours have done just fine. And this is coming from someone who has worked from home for the last 10 years and had full time before and after care during that time. Own your choices. It’s not fair and I get parents who didn’t think ahead are struggling right now but you should’ve seen the writing on the wall at least by November 7th. [/quote]

Oh please. SFH is the dream and who tf do you think you are telling people what is their right or not? You can take your smugness and shove it.

Kids being in school/care for 11 hours is not something everyone is ok with. My child would not have done well in that scenario for a variety of reasons that are, quite frankly, none of your business. I didn't have parental leave when I had a newborn and, yet, I'm thrilled for those who now have it. I struggled big time during that time but I don't feel that others should need to do so.

Also, I don't know who you think you're responding to but my kid is in HS so these issues don't affect me. But, I did just resign after the RTO was for 5 days when I had never done that at my agency. NO ONE at my agency expected that b/c we have different rules (long-standing tw program, we don't take appropriated funds). We were assured that we would likely only have to go back to a few days/week.

And let's be clear, this is not about efficiency it's about cruelty. [/quote]

It is cruel but stop with your complaining and check your privilege. Plenty of people with kids make do without owning a home. It’s not a right and no one wants to hear your complaints about why your individual circumstances aren’t fair. Own your choices. All before and after care places are now full with waiting lists. Summer camps with extended day are mostly full. It sucks. Some of us planned better. Sorry many of you didn’t. [/quote]

Can you read? This doesn't affect me so I had nothing to plan for in terms of child care.

No one said it is a right but you have no right to comment on what others should do. "Misery loves company" is not a valid policy. And you're just a smug, judgmental a$$hole with not a shred of empathy. And the fact you think that POTUS' policy of "make work miserable for feds" is ok -implicitly or explicitly- tells me all I need to know about what kind of person you are.[/quote]

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