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None of these opinions negate women's -- or men's --actual experiences.

Are there some men in their 50s and 60s who have good relationships (or just hookups) with much younger women? Sure. Sometimes it lasts, too. But overall, your likelihood of finding a much younger (and beautiful, and not personality-disordered) mate as a man will decrease as you get significantly older, especially unless you are quite wealthy and willing to spend it.

Can you do it? Sure. Are you likely to be successful at it? Less and less likely as time goes on.

Same for women. Can women in their 50s (or even 60s) find a wonderful relationship with a man, whether younger than they are or not? Sure. Sometimes it lasts, too. But overall, your likelihood of finding an excellent (or just FWB) mate as a woman will decrease as you get significantly older, especially unless you are thin, charming, and conventionally pretty.

Individual anecdotes are what they are -- anecdotes. They speak to possibility, overall likelihoods. People with good experiences as women are more likely to post about their specific in this thread, because they are answering a claim about impossibility.

The thread, though, is geared to find men's answers. Some men are going to post positively, but there is going to be a large incentive for bitter, angry men to post negatively, trying to convince women of the impossibility. Think about it -- why would they care? If there are a bunch of aging women with literally no prospects, but they themselves as virile men are bedding and endless supply of cupcakes -- why would they care if those older women know it or not? If they are truly irrelevant, why are they even thinking about them?

Bitter, angry. Maybe not bedding a bunch of younger women and so holding that grudge against all women, or maybe they are dating younger and either unhappy or still enraged at the partner who left them? Or women who still turn them down, despite any maxims attributed to Ben Franklin about how how older women are supposed to be grateful? (That one does sting, if you think someone is a sure thing because she should be grateful for your attention, but she laughs in your face or couldn't care less.)

All of this boils down to posturing for internet points. Of course you can be attractive as you age, man or woman. We've all seen examples. It's just much less common and so much more difficult to achieve.

If you care about this, work on yourself. That's where any payoff lies, not in trying to convince anyone else with your sour grapes. [/quote]

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