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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s very sad to see all these second wives waving their superiority over the first wife. The point of the OP, and many others, is that kids from the first family wind up with short shrift, and as the father redirects his love and attention, the kids are shut out.

I’ve heard fathers say: I messed up before and I’m going to get it right this time. The first set of kids are a reminder of the father’s faults and easier to drop than face.
This is not the children’s fault. Stop glowing over their misfortune.
To say it doesn’t/shouldn’t  matter to them shows a level of self-centeredness that negates your credibility on everything else. They are still his kids.

In circumstances where the second wife shows some genuine heart toward the children from the previous marriage, even adult children, things are likely to go a whole lot better.[/quote]

It’s interesting you blame the dad and wife.  What about when the mom cheats and is to blame?   She leaves with her ap and has her ap replace dad.  [/quote]

PP it's not even worth wasting energy on the fools in this forum.
We all know the damage first wives are capable of doing. 
I've seen first hand what you described twice. And always messes the first set of kids up.
My husband's ex tried that and I've seen DH mom do that too 
Only messed up kid are the first set. Fil's daughter from second woman is a  dr with stable relationship. DH's full sister ( first marriage) can't hold a job and at 40 and her only relationship was when she was 30 lasted a few months[/quote]

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