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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]I think there is some jealous there.[/b] In the DC area, one partner has to be making a lot of money to enable the other to stay home and still maintain a nice lifestyle (nice house in a close in nabe, vacations, nice cars, pricey extracurricular activities for the kiddos, maybe private school, etc.)

To have an UMC lifestyle with a SAHP, the breadwinner has to be making 300-400k +.[/quote]

On my end its less jealous and more...disbelief. I was raised to be independent and to own my own financials. When I went into my marriage I was comfortably set in a career and had two properties free-and-clear. That only helped when we made future decisions together to buy our 'dream' home. It boggles my mind that [b]some women will rely solely on another person's generosity to live their life.
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It disturbs me even further when these same women, some of them friends, were die-hard Hillary fans and very much into telling their daughters that 'this will be the first woman president, someone to look up to, someone to emulate' and yet the closest rolemodel to those daughters completely opted out of a career. How can you tell your children to aspire to be the head of NASA or a president or a multi-millionaire CEO, but [b]you didn't bother to do anything yourself[/b]?[/quote]

I'm a sahm with school age kids and it's not mind numbingly dull. In fact I think my life is more interesting than those who have no time for anything but work and child rearing, because  I actually have time to pursue my interests. 
Interesting comments. Most of the SAHMs I know here in the DC area became parents later in life and already had successful careers - and made big financial contributions to the family - before taking time off of work to spend more time with their children. And many plan to go back to work in some capacity.

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This is in fact what happens in most cases.  Even as a former sah, however, I do think permanent  sahs are a bit lame.  [/quote]

Really? I think they're lucky. It's like retiring at 27. I'd love to not work. There are aspects of my job that I like but if they stopped paying me, you better believe I'd stop coming in.[/quote]

You would understand if you were ever a sah with kids in school.  It's mind numbingly dull after a few months, all the smart moms are back to work.  A good gig if you like event planning as that is what permanent SAH moms seem to obsess over (fundraising, teacher appreciation day, mom's night out, etc.  .)  Frankly, I'd rather just attend.[/quote][/quote]

I'm a sahm with kids in school and my life is not dull. In fact, I think it's probably more interesting than those whose lives revolve around work and child rearing. I actually have time to pursue my own interests. I'm convinced that people like the poster above are the same ones who plan on working as long as they can because they can't imagine being retired. [/quote]

Nice that your husband is willing to work so you can pursue your interests.[/quote]

I know you meant this sarcastically but it actually IS nice. I know I am very fortunate, in many ways. I got super lucky for some reason.[/quote]

[b]Do you think it's fair to your husband that you don't bring in any money?[/b][/quote]

I think this attitude must come from someone living in a very high cost of living place. Men really do not care if their wives bring in money if they can afford to cover everything in a job that they do not hate. Maybe the person who wrote that has a husband who likes his job and makes plenty of money. Men lucky enough to be in that position spend 0% of their time thinking that it's "unfair" that they are working while their wife is at home making the household run smoothly and enjoying her life.

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