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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I always hate the SAHM and WOHM debates because in my circles living in multiple places, I've had a good mix of friends. I've also been both a SAHM (7 years) and a WOHM (now divorced). For me the big debate is whether people are judgmental v nonjudgmental and if they can handle the fact that people are free to make choices that best suit their families. [/quote]

Saying that someone isn't raising their kids because they have a job isn't true, and is rude to boot.[/quote]

You are twisting the words. If someone said they stay home because they didn’t want someone else to raise their kids, that doesn’t mean a person with a job isn’t raising their kids. I can’t imagine a scenario where someone would so rudely say that to a working mother because it is rude to say. I say this as a sahm who used to be a working mom and will probably one day again be a working mom.[/quote]

So what *exactly* do they mean? Why should we reach beyond what they are actually saying to come up with some nicer, gentler explanation?[/quote]

I have never said those words so I can’t tell you “exactly” what they mean.

I stayed home expecting to only take a break. I thought I would eventually go back to work and I probably will in some capacity. I have 3 kids with a fairly large age gap so I have a kid in high school, middle school and early elementary. I’m finding that my non driving teens require a lot of parenting and driving. I have written this before, not sure on this thread, but I find that the teens need you more than my youngest child. If it were just my elementary child, I probably would be back at work by now. I find my middle school child the most needy currently. [/quote]

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