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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How many people do donor eggs and donor sperm and use a surrogate? I don't know of a single example.[/quote]

I know of a woman who is doing this (a good friend of a friend). She is single, 43 and using donor eggs, donor sperm and an Indian surrogate. I know the arguments regarding the ethics of the Indian surrogacy industry and have separate (though related) thoughts about that, but in the case of this particular woman, it seems like it would make sense to explore adoption. My friend said that she has not actually explored adoption at all, and that she had been planning on donor sperm + surrogate originally, but her eggs are not viable, so now she is pursuing this other option.

I've never met the woman personally and have my information exclusively from my friend who knows her, so I'm sure it's more complicated than that, but you asked for an example and this is the one I have.

Personally, if I was in a situation where I was unable to use my own eggs or uterus and I was not with someone who felt strongly about having his biological children, I would stop before using all ART at my disposal. But that's me personally. I don't think it should be ILLEGAL for people to do what my friend's friend is doing, but I am judgy about it.[/quote]

Very very weird.  When it's this convoluted, you know what, it's just not meant to work out?  Let me count:

single mom
not her eggs
had to purchase the sperm too
had to purchase the uterus

There comes a point where you just say, THIS IS JUST NOT MEANT TO BE and STOP.

Bizarre!!!![/quote]

That's my point.

I have several friends who have used donor sperm, several who have used donor eggs, and a couple who has also used a surrogate. I also have friends who have adopted, both domestically and internationally. I think it's great that there are so many solutions to physiological problems. But like the PP, I secretly believe that if you have to use almost every ART available today, you should maybe consider other avenues of parenting.[/quote]

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