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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is one of my kids, and he keeps saying he should have switched to public for 11th & 12th. His friends from club sports who go to public do a fraction of the work he does, have straight As or A pluses (which our school doesn’t even give), lower SATs and are getting in to much better schools. I do think it matters who he’s competing vs at his school, and they can only take so mah from these smaller privates. [/quote]

[quote=Anonymous]This is one of my kids, and he keeps saying he should have switched to public for 11th & 12th. His friends from club sports who go to public do a fraction of the work he does, have straight As or A pluses (which our school doesn’t even give), lower SATs and are getting in to much better schools. I do think it matters who he’s competing vs at his school, and they can only take so mah from these smaller privates. [/quote]

How does he even know how much work they’re doing? He’s taking polls of all his public school friends and how much they work every night for each class? He knows everyone’s SAT scores?

Every school has kids that work harder than others. Private and public. Maybe your son has to spend more time to learn things than his friends. No shame in that, everyone is different.

My public school kids work hard, they spend a lot of time studying and they talk about what they’ve been learning at the dinner table, which tells me that they’re engaged with the content and making connections. They haven’t been to a private school to compare, but they’re hard working and well rounded and really bright. Public school kids aren’t a bunch of bumbling idiots who don’t deserve to go to college as much as your kid does. [/quote]
Sorry but if you do club sports w/ kids, it’s pretty easy to see how much work they’re doing. My kid is the one declining the fun events at tournaments bc he has to do a ton of hw while his teammates don’t even bring backpacks or computers to long weekend tournaments. He can also see when there online playing games, the hundreds of messages and game invites sent in the team chats, etc. They can also sign up for a ton more fitness sessions and that type of thing bc they generally have minimal hw. I know not all public’s are like this, but ours definitely is [/quote]

NP, and I get what you're saying. My son is like yours, but in public school. He had a ton of work throughout HS and often passed up social events and breaks to do HW and study. We also didn't take a real vacation for the past 4 years, except for short road trips here and there. Breaks were spent catching up on schoolwork and other projects. I think this is more about the type of kids who were in the sport with your kid. Of course there are kids who work hard in both public and private, and also those who don't work hard at all in public and private. I have friends who take frequent vacations  throughout high school and they're also the same ones who often share how their kids are struggling in their classes! Kids and families can make different choices. [/quote]

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