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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DH thinks he’s providing emotional support, but he’s not. I think this is common. Many men think that listening when you come to them with something and not interrupting and then moving on with your life is 100% of emotional support. I used to try really hard to check in with my DH about his emotional state every now and then about his work, his family, our marriage, sex life, his life goals for the next decade and I got nothing. Guess how often he asked me what I wanted in life? [/quote]
My 19 yr old DS went through a bad breakup a bit ago.  He was angry but didn't talk to anyone about it.  He was in a bad mood all the time, and lashed out at his friends.

One of the guys he knew whom no one would ever think would be a shoulder to cry on, reached out to DS about why he was so angry all the time.  DS started to share his feelings, and the guy told him that he should open up more to people.  DS is like me - very closed off emotionally (and I'm a woman).

Some time later, DS was home for the holidays, and we stayed up until 3am talking about the break up, his feelings, and where he wants to go from here.   I was so happy that he opened up to me, and I think it made him feel better to be able to share his feelings.

He's in a great place now.  I agree that people (me included) need to open up more, but I think it's harder for guys to do if  they don't have either a good female friend (just friends) or a male friend who is good about listening to a guy unloading his emotions on him.[/quote]

My female therapist told me that most women don't know how to support a man emotionally. [/quote]

I know how.

Did she tell you how? Tell us.

And vice versa, how men support women emotionally. [/quote]

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