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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Pp again. More than working status, I do think the education standards of the mother matter greatly. DH and I both attended top colleges and our kids expect and also want to attend a top school. I see a huge difference in kids whose parents went to an ivy or other top school and guiding their kids. An uneducated or SAHM who was never professionally successful is different than your [b]Harvard law educated SAHM married to a big law partner.[/b][/quote]

People keep trying to claim most SAHMs fit this profile, but they do not. Successful and ambitious women want to keep being successful and ambitious. Sure, they may take a break for 4-5 years while the kids are little, if they don’t have a spouse or grandparents to share the childcare load, but it’s a sacrifice and they go back as soon as the youngest hits K. They don’t want to live that lifestyle forever.

The long-term SAHMs I know (in McLean, Arlington, Vienna, and two private schools) were average in terms of education and career but lucky enough to marry rich. Or they do fit the profile above but are dealing with medical or SN issues in themselves or their children.[/quote]

Pp here. I’m Harvard educated and a SAHM. I know many former lawyers married who stay home. Most people I hang out with are former lawyers. I also know several doctors who are credentialed and work a few shifts a year but basically a SAHM. Maybe it is because I’m a well educated SAHM that I hang out with other well educated SAHMs or very part time working moms. We all have a high earning spouses. I would estimate the husbands all earn seven figures.[/quote]

And they all had the doctor/lawyer jobs!  Isn’t that funny!  Some of my friends were lawyers and left to stay home with the kids.  They hated their jobs so they were fine with leaving.   My friends, family members and neighbors had all kinds of jobs that they left to stay home full time.   Only a couple with 7 figure salaries.  Most are middle class or upper middle class.  Everyone owns a home, some big l some small, the kids are doing well, doing the ordinary activities of sports and the arts after school.

I love the flexibility of not working.  One of my kids is training at 25 hours a week so I can drive her without worry.   We have fun in the summer especially with no work to worry about.  Kids who have both parents working come with us to the beach or wherever in between camps and going away.  I can’t see any difference between kids with working mothers and non-working mothers. You can sometimes see it in the mothers though.  Mothers who work are sometimes more stressed and some have good reason to be. [/quote]

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