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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is such a stupid thing to fight over. 1. Because every marriage/family situation is different. Some people fight over money but some truly don’t and SAH or not will have little effect on the relationship. 2. People are going to do what they want anyway so why waste time fighting with people about it for forty pages?[/quote]

It's a fight because some [b]people on both sides[/b] are insecure with their choices and/or circumstances.

You SAHMs who are insecure for a variety of reasons.  Some are resentful they gave up their careers and earning potential to be saddled with low-value (according to society) household drudgery.  Some are secretly afraid their DHs will leave them for a professional equal or somebody younger/hotter and they'll be paupers.   Some worry that by opting out of the workforce to rely on a man to provide basic needs, they're setting an anti-feminist example for their daughters (and sons).

Then you have WOHMs who are insecure for a variety of reasons.  Some are afraid they're messing up their kids, missing out on precious time they'll never get back, by shuttling them off to daycare.  Some would love to SAH but can't afford it or DHs will not agree to it so they resent that they didn't marry "better."  Some are simply lazy and envious of women they perceive as having it easier.

Of course, none of these people will admit it, even anonymously.  
 
[b]WOHMs and SAHMs who are happy and secure do not feel any need to fight about this.[/b]  There are many of these women, but they aren't here fighting for 40+ pages. [/quote]

[b]I don’t think I am insecure about my choice to be a SAHM[/b]. I have two masters and had a career. I juggled work life balance for years before deciding to stay home. I cherish my time with my children because the time really did fly by with my older two. I was glad I was able to spend time with them during this pandemic without work stress.

I am a SAHM now but I used to be a working mom. I may not be a SAHM forever.[/quote]

Then she is not talking about you![/quote]

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