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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your resentment is misplaced.

I know my life is only my life but for what it's worth, I wish some of the WOH posters seething with resentment would consider that a broad swath of parents lurk here.  I have a child with mild SNs, under 3.  I am at home for treatments, and when we started with this extra help and doctors appointments, my child was barely out of the newborn stage.  When I realized I would be at home for the foreseeable future, I felt frightened, and now, not knowing when I will return to work, or how great a job I will find for FT work, I feel scared, ashamed and depressed.  I have a fancy grad degree and worry that as I age my potential (intellectual, earning) will always be miles beyond my grasp.   I worry about DH resenting me, and it kills me a bit.  He is mostly a good, kind man, and I am lucky in some respects and try to keep aware of that.  I try to work out (and pull in barely more than pennies by teaching a fitness class once a week), but that's barely even a "jobby" and I know it.

But I have been unlucky to have some otherwise decent WOH moms treat me like I'm a princess who swans around getting her nails done (haven't been inside a salon for years, plural, color own hair, blah).  Even when I compliment them on truly doing it all - being doctors and attorneys and profs and writers who are also moms - I get a f$ckton of snide comments.   They don't know my kid gets therapies and I can never open up to share that, it's a very tender spot for me, and if someone's gonna openly assume I'm a stay at home Pure Barre and Starbucks all the damned day aficionado, I figure we aren't fated to be besties.   But it still hurts.

I know each of our stories are atypical and that I should avoid these comments and conversations.   I just wish some moms wouldn't go into other moms and assume we are spoiled, unambitious and lazy as hell.   It gets cruel.[/quote]

Very good comment IMO [/quote]

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