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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why should he work if you won’t?[/quote]

OP here - my view is, why should I do everything I do now plus a job? I would be insane to agree to that. He’s not going to magically do half. [/quote]

Well, you shouldn't,  so he'll need to step up, but you also likely have to realize that some things you do he may not consider valuable like baking fresh bread every day.

OP, my mother was a SAHM  and I honestly don't think I benefited from it greatly. She like you wanted to stay home and do all the things you list.   Great ! Live your dream, except her dreams came with the cost of her kids having to take out loans to go to college.

Your kids don't need freshly baked bread every day. They would hugely benefit from not having to take out loans to go to school and your income could help build a nice little nest egg so college could be covered for them.[/quote]

I do not feel obligated to provide my children with a college education. Adults must choose to sacrifice for things they consider valuable.[/quote]

Exactly, and it is a continuum. Why does PP feel she is owed a fully paid tuition? And where does it end? Did the PP become an investment banker so that there is more than just a small nest egg? Did PP focus on marrying someone who makes a ton of money to provide even more? Is PP going to continue working until she dies so that her kid has as much money as possible?

A lot of people think that time spent with kids providing moral and intellectual guidance, instead of parking them in childcare or with a nanny, is more important than a small nest egg (or freshly baked bread). Seems like a weird thing for her to think about her own SAHM mother.[/quote]

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