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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ok, you don’t think it’s better for a young SN child to have a non-abusive parent or grandparent at home with them?[/quote]

Again, you can't generalize. I don't know why you keep in trying to find specific situations where you can say that universally SAH is better. There are just too many nuances in life and to me it's a little weird that you want to be so reductionist.

I have a friend who was a SAHM with an SN toddler. She was specifically advised that for her child's specific issues, a small good  daycare might help her child's issues, so he could observe other kids and interact with them. So she found a good daycare, and went back to work in part to pay for it. I have another friend (WOHM) whose toddler had SNs and she was advised that daycare (even a good one) was detrimental for her kid's specific issues. So she pulled him out and became a SAHM.

By your logic, the first mom was a bad mom but the second was a good one. Yet they both did was they were advised, and years later as teens, both kids are doing very well.

I just don't get the desperation that so many of you seem to have to find a single childcare formula that is the BEST for the entire population of children in the world.  Maybe it's because my kids are teens and I have done it all as far as SAH or WOH, and maybe it's because I am around a lot more teens than most people on this thread, but the insistence of a lot of the posters here that there is One True Way just sounds pretty silly to me. SAH or WOH is just so irrelevant in the large scheme of things.

Now emotional instability, meanness (looking at you, several SAHMs and WOHMs on this thread - you can't tell me you don't take that nastiness out on your kids), alcoholism, emotional withdrawal, rage, anger, etc., -- that stuff matters. But that's agnostic of family structure and childcare.[/quote]

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