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Re: the bolded.  Sure, but whose problem is that?  If there's an event, and I don't send my DC with money for the vending machine, so you go ahead and buy my child something, am I freeloading off of you, are you gifting my child with no hard feelings, or are you overstepping in your role as a chaperone?  If people aren't asking for you to do group gifts or pay anything on their behalf, but you do so anyway, that sounds like a "you" problem.  Likewise, if a lot of parents aren't interested in paying for a pizza party, but you decide that it simply must happen, that also sounds like a "you" problem.  You might view some people as freeloaders, but those people might likewise think you're being overly demanding and on a power trip.  [/quote]

I don't see the parallel in your example about the vending machine.  A vending machine purchase isn't required for a class trip, but each kid takes part equally in class parties, unless your kid is sitting in a corner and refusing to participate (which I've never seen in my many years attending class parties.)  Group gifts from a class don't exempt, Harry, Sally and Larla whose parents don't believe in class gifts.  So yes, you are free-riding.  But you're not the only one, and the teachers will never know.[/quote]

The parallel is that you're deciding that the kids need tons of pizza and junk food that the parents might not overly wish their kids to have.  I wouldn't expect a parent to contribute to food that they didn't want their kid to have in the first place, but they're grudgingly saying nothing to the teacher because they don't want their kid "othered" in front of the class.   If people aren't contributing, scale it back.  I wouldn't be surprised if some people are passive-aggressively not contributing because they think the parties are over the top and they want you to scale them back.  Likewise, if enough people aren't contributing to class gifts, then take that as a hint that they would prefer individual gifts.  Just because [i]you[/i] want to do a class gift doesn't mean that everyone owes you and that those who don't pay are "freeloaders."  You are not the boss of everyone else.  [/quote]

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