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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]PP, you keep dodging the question:  When you're publicly shaming people for not contributing, how do you know 100% that they're freeloaders without some sort of medical, psychological, financial, or other crisis?  [/quote]

NP.  I don't know that many room parents publicly post the list of those who donate and who do not (although I'm sure many keep lists for accounting purposes).  [b]But the basic issue is that even if you have moral objections to donations that pay for: pizza/treats/class parties/teacher gifts, most of the other parents are donating on your behalf. [/b] If you're fine with being free rider, carry on.[/quote]

At least a few PPs have said that they share their contribution spreadsheet with the entire class or they're posting lists of non-contributors.  I doubt this thread would have lasted for so many pages if not for the public shaming aspects.

Re: the bolded.  Sure, but whose problem is that?  If there's an event, and I don't send my DC with money for the vending machine, so you go ahead and buy my child something, am I freeloading off of you, are you gifting my child with no hard feelings, or are you overstepping in your role as a chaperone?  If people aren't asking for you to do group gifts or pay anything on their behalf, but you do so anyway, that sounds like a "you" problem.  Likewise, if a lot of parents aren't interested in paying for a pizza party, but you decide that it simply must happen, that also sounds like a "you" problem.  You might view some people as freeloaders, but those people might likewise think you're being overly demanding and on a power trip.  [/quote]

I don't see the parallel in your example about the vending machine.  A vending machine purchase isn't required for a class trip, but each kid takes part equally in class parties, unless your kid is sitting in a corner and refusing to participate (which I've never seen in my many years attending class parties.)  Group gifts from a class don't exempt, Harry, Sally and Larla whose parents don't believe in class gifts.  So yes, you are free-riding.  But you're not the only one, and the teachers will never know.[/quote]

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