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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm a couple hours behind but watching the audio of Brendan going to hospital. Doctor says "your wife has died."

I assume bluntness by the doctor is the right approach so people can process and understand the news. In a general situation however is it normal for the doctor/officer to stick to their roles and be fairly silent while someone processes the loss of their spouse or do you think they were treading carefully here because it was a crime scene?[/quote]

I was about to ask that!!! Can someone answer this ?[/quote]

Training for doctors and similarly for first responders/LEOs is to keep words to a minimum and very clear ‘X has died’ because of the unpredictability of response, cultural differences and difficulty grasping death if euphemisms are used (passed away, no longer with us, in a better place) and for legal precision.

Additionally some doctors and LEOs aren’t really comfortable with death or grief, but they must perform the professional duty of information sharing with next of kin. If you watch much true crime or crime dramas, you’ll see cops speak to one another about the worst part of the job being death notifications. Most doctors feel the same. Some folks being notified lose their shit, some get violent, some blame the messenger etc. It’s not an easy task.

When it comes to LEOs, their training is to being suspicion to the task because they could be notifying the perpetrator so they are always looking for evidence in the way the response unfolds.

For folks who don’t have experience of ER medicine or law enforcement it might be hard to understand what this is like for those of us who do. Imagine if you had to do that kind of thing routinely; there is a lot of vicarious trauma.[/quote]

Thanks for your response and sharing the protocols with us. Yes, I was really wondering how the doctor was doing listening to that testimony or when she found out. To later find out it was the husband who was charged, etc. [/quote]

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