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Wow. No I am a completely disinterested party actually. I've never implied the volt was at fault.

One of those brothers I mentioned was killed as a teenager when a car hit him on a bike. The car was going too fast on a residential street and she was distracted by the kids in her car as she approached an intersection where he was coming out of. The car was driven by a middle aged  white Potomac mother (who knew my brother, he was friends with her son). The only person more distraught than us that day was her. Maybe a middle aged white woman is a demographic you can sympathize with more? She'd had tickets before too.

So I'm not a plant, but I am someone who has experienced loss due to shitty driving and someone who knows first hand how every single person involved feels forever changed. And someone that has worked very hard to feel forgiveness. Part of that is realizing that anyone can do a terrible thing in single moment of recklessness. And that it doesn't mean they are a terrible person. And having known a bunch of 20 year old boys intimately as my other brothers grew up I can tell you they are stupid and feel invincible and the culture of  Potomac parenting just bolsters this.

The only point I've actually tried to make is that I don't think the driver is the devil. Just that I think he is also one of his own victims. Why is the idea of having empathy for someone so completely disgusting to you?[/quote]

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I'm very sorry for your loss, but your empathy is misplaced. The situation you describe  is very different then the accident we are talking about. This guy wasn't having a bad moment. He willfully took everyone's lives in his hands with his decisions. That fact he wasn't distracted actually makes it so much worse. He intended to drive that speed on that road. [/quote]

Completely agree with the NP above.  -- Another NP[/quote]

You know what I don't think either of you (or the super hostile pp from earlier) have the right to tell be where to place my empathy or whether it not it is deserved. It remains in place.

You can not feel the same way and that is fine but my life has put me in a place where I can be devastated for the girl and feel for the driver.

And I don't see a tremendous difference. She was also speeding, and on a residential road. She also deserves empathy. I still don't understand why everyone is so bothered that there could be a person on dcum who thinks that everyone involved is a human being rather than reducing the villain to a cartoon evil villain.[/quote]

I'm sorry for your loss pp.  Was the lady who hit your brother zooming like a bat out of hell going twice the legal speed limit down a residential street (50mph instead of 25mph)?  Because if she was that was very dangerous for the conditions and highly negligent on her part.  But I can see how a distracted person might temporarily speed up w/o realizing it while going down a hill which is probably more along the lines of what happened in that situation.

115mph down a busy street is wanton disregard for human life, plain and simple.  That young man knew he was going fast and he was purposely choosing to go that fast.  And it wasn't the first time he had been caught driving recklessly.[/quote]

It was at the top of a hill actually. So far people have assumed that I am related to the driver, assumed that i don't understand loss, they have assumed that my experience couldn't possibly a ACTUALLY be similar (I'm assuming because the driver is a lot like the typical dcumer and not the 20 year old son of a Turkish immigrant) and assumed they know what happened in the accident.

Please stop. I have no desire to paint that woman as the devil. I only brought it up to explain why I am capable of feeling the way I feel without being related to the driver.

Literally my only point is that he's a person who police say was beside himself at the scene and who has taken responsibility by pleading guilty. All I'm saying is that he's not one dimensionally evil. Why multiple posters feel like they need to prove that my feelings about this are invalid is really behind me. Sometimes dcum really is just a witch trial in disguise. 
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If a bleached blond soccer mom had be speeding at 115mph in her minivan and slammed into a family - she would be blamed for it.  And she would be punished for it.  No way would it be o.k. for her or any other person to do that.  In fact, if she had her own kids in that minivan and she was speeding like that she would be probably be in even bigger trouble.

This young man killed 3 members of a family in a very reckless way.  And he had been caught for speeding before.  That is why he is in trouble.[/quote]

Could you point out where I said he shouldn't be held accountable or punished?[/quote]

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