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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Truly experienced mothers would not stoop to this pettiness. [/quote]

I agree - truly experienced moms get that balancing kids and work is hard and we applaud those parents who are investing in reliable childcare so they can actually work. I’ve been burned at work by parents who are distracted trying to juggle kids and work for an extended period of time and don’t get that the solution is to invest in childcare.[/quote]

Ha- doesn’t get better back in the office.  I get burned by parents having to leave at 5pm on the dot to pick up their kids from daycare.  We often have meetings that go past that. They claim daycares close at 6 and kid has softball.  Seems like more nannies are needed.[/quote]

If the solution is “more nannies” then compensation for women needs to match that of men, salaries of millennials need to catch up with inflation, and realistic childcare tax breaks implemented. Oh and we probably need to support immigration so we can actually find and hire people who want to nanny. BTW part time nannies are EXTREMELY hard to find, and even harder if only a few hours a week.[/quote]

The solution is live closer to work. Whatever that looks like in your budget. Queue the balking in 3…2…1…[/quote]

Not balking, but that’s not always as realistic as you make it out to be.  Some people work in (gasp!) a different part of the metro area than their partner/spouse.  Others (gasp!) change jobs and can’t just pick up and move to a new house every time that happens.  Others (double gasp!) don’t want to raise their children in a 1-BR apt (which is pretty much all we could afford close to DH’s office).  I could go on, but surely you could also use your imagination.[/quote]

Also, given that the people in this situation are *parents*, it's worth bearing in mind that picking your kid up and putting them in a different school isn't always possible, definitely isn't great for them and is especially both of those things in March.[/quote]

We don’t apply to jobs that are farther from our home than we are willing to commute. We live in Nova and literally do not even apply to jobs in DC. [/quote]

This is a little unfair. Most people start their careers before they have kids. It's really hard to predict how your commute will work when you have kids in school. I used to live in another city in the outskirts and worked downtown. My commute took 45 minutes to an hour and that felt fine. I was single, no kids. Now I can't imagine our life if my commute was more than 30 minutes. I thank my lucky stars that the job I happened to get out of grad school is not in DC or other downtown area that essentially requires a 45min-1hr commute unless you have a lot of money. My dad used to do commutes like that growing up, and it seemed normal to me. But that lifestyle worked mainly if there was a SAHP/part-time working spouse. Telework/remote work is a way to adapt white collar jobs to dual working parent families. I do think these families should still have full time child care if they are working full time, but adding a 1+ hour commute each way to a full time job and parenting is insane and unsustainable.[/quote]

It’s telling that you think the job you had long before kids should still be the same job you have many years later. Most people are many jobs removed from their pre kids job. My kids are teens and my DH has had five or six jobs since then and he was geographically limited on all of them. We haven’t moved houses. [/quote]

What is it telling?

Some of you are so limited in your thinking.  You can't see past your own nose and situation.  So maybe save your opinions.  They are useless.[/quote]

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