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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Making someone's life better than your own doesn't necessarily mean they had a GOOD life. If you were beaten twice a day and you only beat your child once a week, you still beat your child, you see?

Saying "I'm sorry if I contributed to your unhappiness...." is not a real apology. It's the word "if" that's the problem. You need to change it to the word "that".

But lets review what he's saying: his parents were fighting, you wouldn't let him be an independent thinker regarding religion, and on top of all that, he was isolated via homeschooling. Yeah, [b]who wouldn't be upset by all that[/b]?! [/quote]

An adult who recognizes their parent was doing the best they could for their child at the time. An adult who accepts responsibility for making their own life choices that got them to where they are at 30. Most parents raise their children in their own religion at least until they are 18/an adult and start making religious decisions.  There's nothing wrong with home schooling and once you turn 18 you can decide how you want to learn. An adult who recognizes their parents are humans and human interactions are complicated and their parents may not always portray ideal communication with each other. The 30year old needs to grow up and take responsibility for their current lot in life. [/quote]

+100 An mature adult child owns their life choices and their issues. At some point, they stop running back to mommy and daddy with their problems.[/quote]

This is true. And in my case, being a mature adult meant cutting my parents out of my life.  If that's your goal for your relationship with your adult children, congrats, you are on track.  [/quote]

Just remember that your own kids are watching how you treat your parents and they will think it's pretty normal to cut ties with you one day.[/quote]

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