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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I never understand these people who try to talk to their parents about their failures. You really think your mom and dad are going to change after 60+ years of life and announce “of course! we failed! thank you for showing us the light.”

Your parents failed. So have you. You were a spoiled brat at times and a sweet, misunderstood angel at others. The best thing you can do is the hard work of being a parent yourself. Forgive your wretched parents and hope that your child will do the same for you.[/quote]

Well, in my family, these discussions were attempted starting when the adult kids were in their early 20s (still young enough that this issues were very fresh, but old enough to realize that our childhood was not normal).  And by mid-30s, the children had either decided on estrangement (full or partial) or appeasement as strategies (or moving to a different continent entirely, for one sib.)  Another thing is that the relationship between parents and adult children is ongoing.  The dysfunction that happens in childhood doesn't suddenly disappear in adulthood, and that can continue to create ongoing problems.  If the parent refuses to address either the past or the present, well, there's only so much that can be done. [/quote]

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