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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think they are cute together. I hope they are very very happy. [/quote]

I honestly think that out of all his relationships she is the only partner that can keep him on the straight and narrow. He wants the girl next door, but he needs JLo.[/quote]

Right...so for every other person in recovery they have to do it themselves, but she is so exceptional, in this case, as a partner she can keep him clean and sober. It's amazing how her fans drink this Kool aid about how exceptional she is in relationships especially. The data does not bear it out. She has a chaotic, troubled relationship history. He is an addict. The romanticizing is part of the problem. [/quote]

That's not what I am saying, although I do see that saying straight and narrow definitely sounds like that's all I was saying. Poor choice of words.

My take is more that Ben is arrogant as hell, can focus when he needs to, but also also be lazy and somewhat aimless unless he has a project or whatever. But he thinks he needs to be in charge.

I think JLo is one of the hardest working women in really any industry. She has an incredible work ethic. I don't think she's going to tolerate Ben being or doing any less with his talent. She will call him out on his s$i! and if will let the arrogance go with her and let her run the show he will thrive. He thinks he needs to be the alpha in all aspects of the relationship when he really only needs to be the alpha in certain areas.

I also think this whole relationship is publicity driven right now and may not make it anywhere, but Ben dating JGar personality clones isn't going to do him any good.

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This is fascinating. Why should she "run the show?" This is a model of a healthy relationship?? These themes emerge when talking about her because they are her issues...control, discipline, the sharing of power. She struggles with mutuality. She probably  won't tolerate him long term. That's why it's a poor choice. These are not adolescents, whose personalities are just being formed. They are midlife adults/parents with complex relationship histories and entrenched personality dynamics...he cannot just "let the arrogance go"...it's part of who he is...his personality. And why does she repeatedly pick a man she has to call out...on anything? J lo lives in another world relationship wise. She is very ungrounded and unwise in this way. Lots of fantasies I think. [/quote]

You know Jennifer and Ben were engaged to each other at the ages of 33 and 30 respectively right? How is that adolescence. They were grown adults who were perfectly happy in their choice of each other and have found their way back to that same level of happiness and respect.

People forget because they currently are in such incredible shape and [i]look[/i] young but they are basically 50.[/quote]

No one has forgotten that they’re 50. They’re just acting like a couple of twenty year olds who don’t have kids to consider, and haven’t been married four times between them.[/quote]

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