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[quote=Anonymous]No, it’s not too old. I’m 40 now and we are contemplating whether to have another. Biggest factors for me aren’t my age (tho obviously it does mean some risks), but stuff like taking more time off from work after finally getting back on track, and the fact that our current 3-person dynamic is working well.

My parents had their kids young— four kids between 20 and 30. They had no idea what they were doing, and made some very consequential mistakes. I remember very vividly realizing in my own 20s that my parents were basically children when they had us, and that they’d never really had a chance to become mature people. Now I’m 40 and my parents are relatively young, but they are still emotionally immature and not a fork of support. I am glad I waited to have children, and that I can give my daughter what I didn’t have— I loving, supportive, empathy-filled childhood. I think this will be a better legacy to leave her than an extra decade with me in my old age. I wish my own parents had waited to have kids, even though it would mean less total time with them. I think that time would have been better spent.[/quote]

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