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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"Barbara, Karen, we know you love Baby, and want to spend time with him. But the bottom line is, you don't respect our parenting choices, and we can't trust you. When we leave Baby with someone, we have to know that our rules and wishes will be followed. These are rules and wishes we base on recommendations from pediatricians, from the latest parenting guidelines, and from our own experience with our child. If you want to babysit, you are going to have to go by our rules. That's final."[/quote]

I'm not sure I agree with this. You don't owe them a reason other than, "We just don't feel comfortable leaving her." You don't have to add the "with you" to the end of the sentence.

Giving the real reason why you aren't leaving the baby with them is going to result in one of two conversations. Either (1) a conversation about your parenting choices and why ILs disagree with them. Or (2) a conversation about how you are completely mistaken and of course they respect your parenting choices. I can't see why OP would want to have either of these conversations. The first one just inflames the argument and accomplishes nothing for either side. And the second one implies that the ILs can change OP's mind by saying she's wrong, that of course they respect her parenting choices. And if OP holds her ground, she is going to be put into the position of saying to her ILs, "I don't believe you." Which again, inflames the argument and accomplishes nothing for either side.

I would just stick to, "We don't feel comfortable leaving her." Period.[/quote]

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