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[quote=Anonymous]^^^ The issue is that OP said this was a social group decision by her daughter and her friends that "They" thought the party was lame.

OP also said this is a very small private school and that this girl is new.

So her daughter and her friends could feasibly constitute all of the girls in the class, or all the girls except for one or two.  Obviously OPs daughters and friends are talking about this together at school if they collectively came up with the idea that the party was "too lame" for any of them to attend.  These aren't adults making up their own mind or teens/preteens using technology to communicate outside of school.

Due to the age of these girls and the limitations to when they can talk to one another, this group decision of "too lame" must have occured when they were all together...during school, probably at recess or lunch and very likely in earshot of the new girl.

That is what the difference is.

Imagine how the new girl will feel the day of her party when none of her new classmates show up to her "too lame" birthday party.

Imagine how she probably already feels, since OPs daughter and friends most likely reached their "too lame" decision at school within earshot of this other kid.

I am not an invite everyone/go to every party & event type mom, but this one is a no brainer.  These are 8 year old kids, still young enough for moms to gently guide them towards kindness, compassion and openess to new people and different things, and away from typical queen bee/mean girl behavior.

OP, what if your daughter was the new girl in a small private school, and the established pecking order snubbed your (very public) invitation and overture for friendship?

The answer to this one is pretty simple when you look at it this way.[/quote]

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