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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ugh this thread is making me want to cry. I hate being reminded how many kids are raised in homes where they are raged at regularly, hit, etc (yeah sugarcoat it all you want  with the authoritarian parenting method of your choice). I do understand original OP's frustration, my preschooler son has terrible days/weeks too, I really get it. But so sad for this kid and all the kids who get raised like this. By the way, I teach teenagers and it takes about 3 seconds to tell who was raised in an angry home. These kids do NOT grow up to be well-behaved. They grow up to lash out just the way their parents lashed out at them. And that's the ugly, sad truth. [/quote]

I agree this is a sad thread, PP. Just one observation. If you're using patterns of lashing-out behavior as your sole, or even primary, criterion for identifying the kids who grow up in angry homes, you're missing some. I've worked with model students who grew up in dysfunctional homes where anger and violence were part of the fabric of their lives (so to speak). Not to say the model students didn't have issues; those issues just didn't manifest as anger. Instead, you might see overly-careful/correct behavior, excessive tentativeness, etc. [/quote]

Yes you are totally right. I was thinking the same thing after I posted. There are so many ways this manifests. My own mom was very much the "model" student who struggled with anxiety (and still does to this day) due to her father's terrifying rages. Thanks for adding this to the conversation. I guess the moral of the story is, we all screw up our kids somehow but it just kills me when people think these authoritarian brutal tactics actually work. [/quote]

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