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[quote=Anonymous]If there are minor children involved, then the surviving spouse absolutely needs to put them first.  They should not be swanning around with new dates or going out of town for at least a year, if not longer.  Discreet dating is OK, but I would not bring a new partner into the home for quite a while.  It is incredibly selfish for the parent to focus only on their own happiness and not realize that their children can never replace the lost parent the way that the parent can remarry.

Another issue is emotionally unintelligent, needy widowers making a bad choice of new partners when they jump right into dating.  That could result in a bad stepparent being introduced into the family while the kids are still grieving, something which resulted in completely tearing apart my own family.

For grown children (or no kids), the situation is less fraught.  The widow can make his own decisions.  However, the widow should never expect grown children, friends, relatives of the dead spouse to jump for joy about the new partner.  They should probably keep things discreet and under wraps for a while.  [/quote]

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